2 Designer Shoes with Jaw-Dropping Potential

If a dog is man’s best friend and, according to Marilyn, diamonds are a girl’s best friend, then the Nela single gal’s best friend are going to be designer shoes (you probably thought I was going to say a push-up bra). The reason why is because your confidence takes a hit whether you’ve just gone through a breakup or a divorce. You need to get your confidence back. If you were a housewife, you would probably get vaginal rejuvenation surgery (there are two of them who have done that post-divorce). But there is a much cheaper and less invasive way to get your confidence back, and that’s through your shoes.

We all love this moment—you run into your friend or co-worker, they gasp, their jaw hits the floor, and they ask “Where did you get that?” Oh, the elation you feel at that moment! It feels so good to have those moments. But even better than that is to go out on a date and have a man say, “I love those shoes.” If a man (a straight man) is noticing your shoes, you know that they are hot! There is a way to have these jaw-dropping moments, and it does not involve contacting adoption agencies to see if Christian Louboutin is looking to adopt a full-grown child.

If you had to get two pairs of jaw-dropping shoes to buy, they should be a pair of non-everyday high heels and a pair of boots. An everyday high heel would be the basic, classic black or brown high heel you could wear with almost any outfit. Now, you might be thinking, “I’ll get my money’s worth if I buy classic high heels that I can wear every day.” While that may be partially true, remember that the goal is not to get your money’s worth in the traditional sense but to make as many jaws drop as possible. So when you are deciding to splurge or bargain shop for those designer heels, you want something with a pop. You want an unusual shape, color, pattern, or height. You need something that is going to elicit a gasp from a coworker and make your date take notice of your shoes. There is a reason why the author Nana Malone includes in her Stiletto romance series a pair of gold Christian Louboutin shoes  that bring love and luck to every friend who puts them on (the book series is like The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants but with a pair of high heels).

The second pair of jaw-dropping designer shoes you need is a good pair of boots. In Jacque Strafford’s book, The Wow Factor, she writes that the way to look wealthy or Chi-Chi is with a pair of boots. I completely agree with this. Also, these boots can be an investment; if you take care of them, they will last a long time. Get these in a classic style so that you can get maximum wear from them. A pair of designer boots is always going to get you compliments from other women, and you can dress them up to make them sexy for dates. I would recommend a knee-high style in either a low-heel riding boot, a wedge boot, or a high-heel boot. Either way, the knee-high style is classic.

A pair of non-everyday designer high heels and a pair of everyday designer knee-high boots will add some jaw-dropping potential to your wardrobe and get you a boost of confidence when you need it the most.

5 Designer Wardrobe Pieces for Professional Speakers

A general rule for professional speakers is to dress one level up from the audience. And a way to follow that rule is to go designer. However, even if your mindset is designer, your budget may not be designer, so how can you pull this off? There are five pieces I would recommend that you begin to acquire for your wardrobe that will let you get plenty of mileage, compliments, and cache out of them.

Let’s work from head to toe.

  1.   A designer jacket. A designer jacket is going to add some oomph to a top that may have been purchased at Target. The jacket helps to pull together any stage outfit and looks great in photos. For this designer jacket, you can go the more traditional route of a blazer or a Chanel-inspired jacket.
  2.  A designer statement necklace. Again, a statement necklace will allow you to dress up a top or dress and completely transform the ordinary to extraordinary. A designer piece will have a unique look that will be difficult for other speakers to replicate.
  3.  A designer dress. A designer dress will offer you the opportunity to create many different looks. Pair it with different jackets, cardigans, and necklaces to create complete different looks and get some extra mileage out of this designer dress. The designer dress will probably also have a better cut and a more figure-flattering silhouette.
  4. A pair of non-everyday designer high heels. An everyday high heel would be the basic, classic black or brown high heels you could wear with almost any outfit. Now, you might be thinking, “I’ll get my money’s worth if I buy classic high heels that I can wear every day.” While that may be partially true, remember that the goal is not to get your money’s worth in the traditional sense but to make as many jaws drop as possible. So when you are deciding to splurge or bargain shop for those designer heels, you want something with a pop. You want an unusual shape, color, pattern, or height. You need something that is going to elicit the audience members’ comments on you shoes to the people sitting next to them and later have audience members coming up to you to give you compliments on your shoes.
  5.  A good pair of designer boots. In Jacque Strafford’s book, The Wow Factor, she writes that the way to look wealthy or Chi-Chi is with a pair of boots. I completely agree with this. Also, these boots can be an investment; if you take care of them, they will last a long time. Get these in a classic style so that you can get maximum wear from them. A pair of designer boots is always going to get you compliments from other women and speakers. I would recommend a knee-high style in either a low-heel riding boot, a wedge boot, or a high-heel boot. Either way, the knee-high style is classic.

How to Get Away with Murdering the Red Carpet: Best Designer Looks of Shonda Rhimes and How to Translate Them for Your Closet

When you think red carpet, you think glitz, glamour, lights, and cameras. You also probably think young, attractive, petite, one-of-a-kind gowns, and a world that is so different than your daily commute to work, laundry, and cooking dinner.

Well, I wanted to show you someone that could be you and show you that you could have more in common with red carpet looks than you think. So for a muse, we will use Shonda Rhimes, the highly creative and accomplished creator of hit TV shows such as Scandal, Grey’s Anatomy, and How to Get Away with Murder. This woman is curvy, 47 years old, and is murdering red carpets everywhere.

In this first look, she is wearing a flattering black and white dress with an A-line silhouette. Notice that it goes past the knee and has a lot of applique and design work around the midsection. The style lesson from this is not that you need to go out and by a dress just like this but that when in doubt, go with black and white. It is a classic and less predictable choice than all black, which would be many people’s default position. When you are trying to sprinkle in designer pieces, consider black and white combo pieces because they will always be hot.

In this second look, she is wearing a stylish pastel blue fit-and-flare dress with a sparkling silver clutch and silver high heels. The takeaway style lesson from this look is the neckline. It has a little V-neck that gives a hint of cleavage without you looking like you are late for your shift at Hooters. This is going to be a flattering neckline on many body shapes. Look for it on dresses and tops. Look for this when you are looking for designer additions to your wardrobe.

Now, you might not match the creativity of Shonda Rhimes if the last creative thing you did was to do was use hazelnut coffee creamer instead of half and half (that was one wild and crazy morning). However, you can match the creativity of your wardrobes by incorporating some of the important takeaways and bringing a little red carpet to your everyday looks. As you can see, size doesn’t matter, age doesn’t matter, and celebrity doesn’t matter.  So your red carpet may be the lobby of your workplace, but that doesn’t matter—murder it!

Your Career Can Forge Ahead Thanks to These Two Things

As a real estate professional, your first impression is your income. A bad first impression means pushing a shopping cart full of recyclables in between your showings to help cover overhead. Okay, things may never get that dire, but how can you make a good first impression if your taste in clothing is more “What’s clean and stain-free?” than “What’s new on the runway?” A great way to hack the polished and professional code is with your shoes.

Your shoes can make a great first impression for you, and here are two designer shoe recommendations.

If you had to get two pairs of designer shoes to buy, they should be a pair of non-everyday high heels and a pair of boots. An everyday high heel would be the basic, classic black or brown high heel you could wear with almost any outfit. Now, you might be thinking, “I’ll get my money’s worth if I buy classic high heels that I can wear every day.” While that may be partially true, remember that the goal is not to get your money’s worth in the traditional sense but to make as many jaws drop as possible. So when you are deciding to splurge or bargain shop for those designer heels, you want something with a pop. You want an unusual shape, color, pattern, or height. You need something that is going to elicit a compliment from a client or potential client and make your fellow realtors green with envy.

The second pair of jaw-dropping designer shoes you need is a good pair of boots. In Jacque Strafford’s book, The Wow Factor, she writes that the way to look wealthy or Chi-Chi is with a pair of boots. I completely agree with this. Also, these boots can be an investment; if you take care of them, they will last a long time. Get these in a classic style so that you can get maximum wear from them. A pair of designer boots is always going to get you compliments from clients, customers, and perfect strangers that you can convert into prospects. I would recommend a knee-high style in either a low-heel riding boot, a wedge boot, or a high-heel boot. Either way, the knee-high style is classic.

If you don’t have the time, energy, money, or taste for a full wardrobe, then just get the two pair of shoes mentioned above to immediately step up your wardrobe and allow your career to forge ahead with always making a great first impression.

The road to real wardrobe riches: How discount designer clothing can be good for your style and your wallet

1. You can afford designer pieces.
2. Sprinkling designer pieces in takes items to the next level.
3. That is how you start loving your wardrobe.

It’s called closet porn. Hold on—it is not what you think. But we all know what it is. You see a celebrity’s
closet in a magazine spread or you see the closet of one of the housewives of Beverly Hills and your pupils dilate, your heart starts racing, and your brain is flooded with serotonin. You can’t help but stare wide-eyed. Look at the array of colors and the wall devoted just to shoes. Is that a jewelry vault in the corner? And did that diva Mariah Carey say that she just has a closet devoted to her lingerie? You can’t help but obsess.

Never has the gap between the haves and have-nots seemed wider. Later that day, you venture into your own closet and think that it is just subpar. Your hangers are more crowded than the teeth of a dental phobe, and to find the matching shoe for you pair of high heels, you have to tie a rope around your waist, hand the other end to your eight-year-old daughter, then tell her that if you are not back in five minutes to call 911, and then you dive into your mountain of shoes.

You brush this off as perfectly normal because, well, if you had Real Housewives of Beverly Hills money and their $700 shoes, your closet and wardrobe would not be a mess. Let’s test that theory, shall we?

Test #1: Is it possible to get a pair of $700 shoes for $100? (Well, you know, without Chanel being spelled with an “m” instead of “n” because you can get five pairs of Chamel’s for $100 in the back alley.) It is possible to get some really good designer stuff at “regular people” prices. You just have to know where to look and where to click online.

You may be thinking, “Okay, so maybe I could have a closet filled with some designer pieces so that I look like a real housewife protégé. Do I really need that stuff? I am just a human resources specialist in Des Moines and mother of two. I would spend time shopping for these pieces if I really needed them.” Let’s test that theory, shall we?

Test #2: You are going to work in a brown pencil skirt, a pink pussy bow blouse, and brown high heels. What if instead of the brown pencil skirt, you have on a designer brown skirt with suede details? The skirt is slightly more stylish and a little more fashion forward. Do you get more compliments at work? Does your walk change into a sashay? Do you see this item in your closet and think, “Not quite Mariah, but pro-me?” There are some benefits to sprinkling these pieces into your wardrobe and closet.

This next one is going to be a little painful. Do you think you deserve designer pieces? What does this mean? No matter where you are shopping, do you immediately go to the sales or clearance racks? Are you comfortable shopping at T.J. Maxx, Marshall’s, Ross, Target, and Walmart but feel guilty if you pay full price for something? If I gave you three handbags all priced the same, with two being generic brands and one being a designer bag, would you select one of the generic bags because, subconsciously, that is where your self-worth is? If you recognize any of these behaviors, you may need to do some inner work. For you, spending a little bit on yourself is an exercise in self-esteem, and having some of these items sprinkled into your wardrobe is a confidence-building exercise.
Now this doesn’t apply to everyone, so don’t tell your therapist that you ran up your credit card debt to build your confidence. But for those of you who it does apply to, you have that guilty feeling when you spend money on yourself or buy something nice for yourself. Seeing yourself as a person who can wear and deserves some of these things will go a long way to building a wardrobe and inner riches. You starting to love your wardrobe will be you starting to love yourself.

#Compliment of the Day

Compliments are a great way to boost your confidence and so are affirmations. Compliment of the Day combines the best of both worlds. Subscribe to the Blog, Facebook, Google Plus, or Twitter to get a regular dose of compliments.

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“You have a great sense of humor.”

Use the pre-recorded affirmations so you can brainwash yourself to confidence and healthy self-esteem. Click on the audio bar below to hear the loop of Compliment of the Day or click (or right click) this download link to save to your computer and/or mp3 player.

 

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♥ AJ

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#ClosetConfidential: Why not a Winter Wonderland of all white for your closet? It is an OCD paradise!

It is not enough to just love the clothes hanging in your wardrobe, you should also love where they sleep at night… your closet. Shopping in your closet can be as fun and beautiful as shopping in a luxurious boutique. Uncover the confidential (and not so confidential) secrets of beautiful closets, so you can tell your beautiful new blouse “Bonne Nuit.”

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Why not a Winter Wonderland of all white for your closet? It is an OCD paradise! Click here to see the closet.

♥ AJ

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Fashion Fortune Cookie 2 – Love

Fashion Fortune Cookie – 2 – Love

You want to know what the future holds for you? Wish you had a crystal ball? Or that you could read tea leaves? Hmm… these leaves say I didn’t wash this teacup. As the saying goes, the best way to predict the future is to create it.

So what’s your fortune… cookie?

This is your fashion fortune cookie and we are going to create some good fortune for you. This episode is about love.

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#ApparelADay: Blanket Scarf

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Blanket Scarf: a giant version of a scarf that is so big it could even be used as, you guessed it, a blanket.

♥ AJ

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